The success of marriage depends not on one single factor but several factors, some which we can control and some which are not in our hands.
Nowadays, we see many divorce cases happening around us and has a direct impact on all areas of life of the couple getting divorced. Further, if they have child, then it effects on the upbringing of the child as well. The reasons behind divorce also have to be taken into account as sometimes there are few reasons which can be termed “silly reasons”, as they could have been sorted out easily by the couple by proper understanding and discussion. Many assume that divorce cases are more with respect to arranged marriages but surprisingly even love marriages too are having an increased divorce rate in present times.
On these grounds, we will share something on how to make married life successful and from our side would like to discuss some pillars of successful marriage:
1) Strong Bond:
Marriage is all about bonding because getting married is very easy but it is equally important to keep the bond of love for long time. The first step for successful marriage is to start the marriage with a strong bond. Your relationship is more than love and you have to accept each other with good and bad things that come along with both and once you accept then only you can create a strong bond with each other. Further, in Indian culture where family values are top most priority, it is important for the couple to build a strong bond with the family members as well as it is directly or indirectly going to impact on the success or failure of marriage.
2) Communication:
Communication is a key to successful marriage is it will make or break your marriage. The key to improving communication is taking a little time in the day to discuss something that interests you both. Take a moment and sit down together and discuss about each other’s projects, plans and dreams. Show that you have a genuine interest in their life and also discuss your hopes, fears and dreams without hesitate. Good communication will give your marriage a strong foundation, guaranteeing a long and happy married life. We can see many couples are facing communication gap in today’s fast moving world and this is leading to confusions, conflicts, frustrations as couples are not on same thinking page as they do not communicate openly on regular basis.
3) Trust:
You get married because you trust the person. Trust is complicated because you cannot buy it with gifts, candle light dinners or some random photo sessions. Trust needs to be earned. Trust comes with honesty and it means you must be loyal towards your partner. Many couples have trust issues these days which can be seen through activities like checking mobiles of each other, stalking on social media, checking out your partner’s friends and professional circle. This will create unnecessary cracks in married life and once the trust leaks through these cracks then it can lead to having doubts on smallest of small things done by the partner. Therefore, it is very important to have strong trust and belief in your partner and remain loyal towards each other.
4) Respect& Understanding:
A successful marriage requires respect. The way you treat your spouse in front of others matters a lot as they will also respect him or her equally. Some people find it difficult to understanding this fact. Also it is very important as to what we share about our personal married life with others as it is you who has to respect your relation and not make your private relation public. Success or failure of marriage also depends on understanding as there are certain issues which are known to us and we can address them at first hand but on the other side there are certain issues which are sometimes unspoken and it needs to be understood by you and address it to avoid further complications.
5) Expect less and get more from your partner:
Expectations are a part of marriage and when you expect more from your partner and it is not fulfilled then it can create a gap between the couple. A happy couple has realistic expectations. If you are a person with high expectations then such must be expressed with proper communication and understanding. When you expect less or have basic expectations then it will be easy for you and your partner to fulfill these expectations leading to happier life. Expectations should be decided on self opinion in discussion with your partner and not on comparison basis by looking at other couples as each couple are different in nature and will have different definitions of happy married life.
Above are the core pillars in our view point for successful marriage. We hope it has given you some insight and will help you to gain understanding on having a successful marriage.
If you agree with above points, then we urge you to think about it.
Thank you…!!!